Motivation and emotion feed each other. Build new emotions and clear your motivations...it's a good place to start!

Motivation and emotion go hand in hand.


They feed each other. If you have no motivation, you'll feel emotionally listless. And, if your emotions are out of balance, it won't be long before you're out of control and motivation won't matter much. Let's take a look at how to build new emotion.

Emotions out of control

The signs of a society emotionally out of control, can be seen all over the world. Violence, rape, road rage, jealous outbursts, procrastination, messy relationships – to name a few. Learning to shift your emotions does not solve the world's problems. But, it will go along way to clearing the space for progress to happen faster...and if you do it from the inside out...

...you'll transform not only your life, but those around you too.

The result...

...You'll feel great. You'll have motivation and emotions based on gratitude, love, purpose and faith.

How my emotions exploded...

From about 13, I decided to never let my emotions get the better of me. Up until then, my teary outbursts had not served me well. I didn't want to be weak anymore. A hardness set in. I didn't care what anyone thought...and best of all...few people messed with me.

Until, in my twenties, it all fell apart.

I'd suppressed every ounce of hurt, pain, fear and anger. It was as if someone had punched a hole in a dam. I began to drown in the river of my own pain. My internal self control hit ground zero.

I cried myself to sleep, and I was crying when I woke up. For two years. I thought it would NEVER end. Depression set in. I was unmotivated to say the least.

There is nothing more frightening than despair. It felt pervasive and permanent. But over the next 5 years, I healed the years of pain that I had stopped myself from feeling. I restarted the emotional journey I had halted at 13. I stepped up my motivation and emotion to a healthy, bigger than me outlook.

And there were wonderful gifts that came with this change.

There are times when negative emotions are still bigger than me...but those days are few and less intense. Every year, my ability to express my emotions in a healthy way increases. I often feel great. And when I don't, I can ride the wave, knowing it will pass.

I started to manage my stress levels and...

..Here are the lessons I learned:

The three common ways we deal with hurt and pain are:

1. Don't feel....just keep moving on. Resist it at all costs. People responding in this way, tend to be goal driven. They show signs of aggression and are most prone to rages. They externalize their pain...projecting it onto others.

2. Drown in anger, fear and hopelessness. People responding in this way often struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts. They internalize their pain and make it a part of themselves.

3. Escape with the use of alcohol, drugs, food binges, gambling, TV, over sleeping etc. Numbing it all out is the name of this game.





Did you know?

Anger is often a result of an expectation or desire that is unmet. Or the belief that your time, energy, emotions, or body have been violated in some way.

Fear is the imagination of something bad happening in the future. It is expecting the worst and experiencing it now.

Shame and guilt are often the result of regret. Regret is living in the past.





What Motivates You?

If your purpose is not big enough, your motivations may stop at comfort, security and pleasure. There is nothing wrong with this, but many people find that once their motivations have been achieved they don't feel much better. John Maslow explains this in his triangle of needs. The ultimate is self actualization. Explore your purpose. Find out what one thing greater than yourself will inspire you.

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